Happiness is a feeling, not a destination

                                     

I was watching this tv show and one of the characters said something that really hit me.
He said something along the lines of, "Happiness is a feeling NOT a destination". I couldn't agree more. Let me first explain the quote. Most of us relate happiness to acquiring something we want. For instance, thinking that I would be happy if i get that car, if i get to be with the love of my life, if i got a high paying job etc. This I feel is one of the major reasons why most of us struggle to be happy because when we finally get these things, we might want something else. In all these wanting and getting, we forget the most important thing; being happy! Yes, happiness is what you feel. Its an emotion. It is a choice. YOUR CHOICE!
Now i know what you must be thinking. It's never as easy as that and i agree with you! Life is a lot more complicated than just deciding to be happy and wolaah, you are happy! For all those looking for answers, I have good news. I have what you are looking for! :)
First thing to remember is that you will never be completely happy or content with your life until you are complete inside. I am going to explain this in as much detail as possible because this is important. What you need to do is, remember that you don't need anything or anyone else to make you happy. You should be able to be alone and be content with it. The only way to do that is by having positive thoughts. Again, i know it's easier said than done. To give an example, lets imagine a scenario in which you just split up with who you thought was the love of your life. What could be the positive thoughts for this? Well for one, you could think that if things were as good as they should be in a relationship, you wouldn't be sitting here alone wallowing in self pity. Just like this, make a habit of trying to derive the positive out of everything whether good or bad. Soon this will become a habit and being happy and positive will come naturally to you. Hope this helps! :)

How to Motivate Yourself at Work

Motivation at work

Motivation is rather elusive, isn’t it? Some days you feel it and other days you can't achieve no matter how hard you try. You keep on staring at your computer screen, willing to do work but you don't have that motivation which makes you do it. Instead, your brain is full of other stuff which in fact makes you uninspired and you have no idea how to get the motivation.
Read on for some tips to get the motivation and the energy to make it happen at work.

Don't think about it as Hard work
There is only one way for me to motivate myself about it: I don't think it as a hard work rather focusing on the moment when it will be done. I just think about the feeling to have it done.

Divide and Conquer
I hope you have heard about this phrase: Divide and Conquer, haven't you? if yes,  have you applied it to motivation? if you know the picture then it would be a piece of a cake to place the blocks and to win the game, isn't it? So rather than focusing on a large and daring goal, divide it into chunks and break the big goal into ideas which could be easily digested.

Don't pay attention to diversions
You should look carefully at your to-do list and shave off anything which is just a diversion or unnecessary for you to do. It won't be best to end up on oppositely to what you have started for at the first place.

Have little breaks
You should have little breaks in order to refresh your mind.you must have your meals because with an empty stomach you won't be able to think fast and work efficiently. Within break, you should take fresh air, relax and calm your mind. Only then you will be able to complete your work and think on the solution if facing any obstacle.

Make it Happen
For me, to get motivated and to start doing something is to just do it(sounds banal, but it works). As soon as you make a decision to do the thing, just jump into it, do it by ignoring all the other stuff and suppressing all other thoughts. This way you would be able to complete your task and would make it happen.

Appreciate yourself & celebrate the win
The feeling after completing your task is very strong, makes you happier and motivated for the next tasks. You should celebrate that feeling of accomplishment which makes you think that you need more wins in life. You shouldn't discount those little wins. You should appreciate yourself on these wins, which eventually leads you to the motivation for the next goal.

What other motivations tricks work for you? Let me know in comments.

How to Live Happy

Today I will share how to make life easy and live it with happiness.

Here are some major key points, pick any one of them, you will find happiness and live a happy life.

Be what YOU are:

It is very important to know yourself i.e. Your strengths, your weakness, your interests, what you like and what you dislike.

Remember:

Everyone in this universe has his/her own individuality with which he/she lives.

Happiness is an inside job."Think happy and Be happy".

So never ever compare yourself with others. If you do so, you are dishonoring yourself. So believe in yourself, in your strengths and you will be happy and would achieve whatever you try for.

Surround Yourself with Positive Thoughts:

The next important thing to live happily or to find happiness is to surround yourself with positive thoughts. The most simple way of achieving this is by surrounding yourself with positive people. People who are encouraging and with the same school of thoughts as you are.

Be Optimistic and Grateful:

Pessimism can only lead you towards anger, distress, and disappointment. You will be ungrateful for what you have in life and lose their importance. It will limit your strengths, abilities and fill your mind with negative thoughts.

The optimistic approach is the key to find happiness and to live happily. You should be thankful for what gifts GOD or nature has bestowed upon you. Start it with your own self in the morning by reminding your mind that it would be a great day ahead and you will see that your day would be great. Our body obeys the mind and mind work on our thoughts. if we could control our thoughts we could achieve our goals.

“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty."

Turning Negative into Positive:

To find happiness, you must have a positive attitude and that comes from positive thoughts. So you must control your mind to think positive by continuously forcing it to think positive. Your inner critic may be one of the biggest obstacles in your way of that. If you make a mistake or fail, if someone criticizes you or if you are just getting tired then that small inner voice can become louder and louder and keep you down.

"I never Loose, Either I win or I learn"

Your approach should always be positive. You must try to turn the negative into positive. You could achieve this by saying a big 'NO' to those negative thoughts which come into your mind. Rerouting your thoughts will lead you to the path of happiness.

"I already possess all, i need to be HAPPY"

Find time for your Own self:

Always find time for your own self. Nowadays, life is so hectic and busy that one can't find enough time for his/her self. So try to save some time for yourself from the 24 hours of your daily schedule.

Here are some ideas which would help you in this matter.

• Ask question to yourself that how can I live happily? What must I do to stay happy?
• Before you are going to sleep, spare 5-10 minutes of your time on just concentrating on yourself, think about your whole day activity i.e. what positive things you did? what made you happy today? what goals you had achieved or by just thinking about the future that what could make you happy?
• Moreover, forgive everyone before you sleep, as it will not change others but it will give you satisfaction and comfortable sleep.
• The best idea is to do a little walk, talking with your own self 
• You should find a hobby for yourself such as 'reading, exercise, join an educational class, join some social group of your interest' etc 

"Don't waste a minute not being happy. If one window closes, run to the next window- or break down a door."

Manage Your STRESS:

Reduce Stress

Manage your stress by keeping things simple. There is a rule to deal with problems.i.e. "Divide & Conquer".So according to this, divide your big problem into small ones and focus on them.

"Conquer your mind and you can conquer the world"

Learn from your previous experience. After solving small problems ultimately your whole problem would be solved.

"Much of the stress that people feel doesn't come from having too much to do. It comes from not finishing what they've started." David Allen

Help out:

There is a Chinese saying that goes:

“If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go fishing. If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, help somebody.”

Happiness is found in helping others. For it is in giving that we receive, right?

Make them Happen:

Set your goals and start to struggle to make them happen. Achieving your goals or dreams needs passion, time and hard work. If you think that you could do that and you have the passion then you will surely achieve your goals and trust me you will be so excited, happy after achieving them. And your confidence will instantly boost up. So are you ready to make them happen?

Change Today:

"Be happy with what you have. Be excited about what you want." Alan Cohen

Remember, it’s not too late to change yourself and your life. So if you want to change yourself, start today with what you have right now.