Happiness is a feeling, not a destination

                                     

I was watching this tv show and one of the characters said something that really hit me.
He said something along the lines of, "Happiness is a feeling NOT a destination". I couldn't agree more. Let me first explain the quote. Most of us relate happiness to acquiring something we want. For instance, thinking that I would be happy if i get that car, if i get to be with the love of my life, if i got a high paying job etc. This I feel is one of the major reasons why most of us struggle to be happy because when we finally get these things, we might want something else. In all these wanting and getting, we forget the most important thing; being happy! Yes, happiness is what you feel. Its an emotion. It is a choice. YOUR CHOICE!
Now i know what you must be thinking. It's never as easy as that and i agree with you! Life is a lot more complicated than just deciding to be happy and wolaah, you are happy! For all those looking for answers, I have good news. I have what you are looking for! :)
First thing to remember is that you will never be completely happy or content with your life until you are complete inside. I am going to explain this in as much detail as possible because this is important. What you need to do is, remember that you don't need anything or anyone else to make you happy. You should be able to be alone and be content with it. The only way to do that is by having positive thoughts. Again, i know it's easier said than done. To give an example, lets imagine a scenario in which you just split up with who you thought was the love of your life. What could be the positive thoughts for this? Well for one, you could think that if things were as good as they should be in a relationship, you wouldn't be sitting here alone wallowing in self pity. Just like this, make a habit of trying to derive the positive out of everything whether good or bad. Soon this will become a habit and being happy and positive will come naturally to you. Hope this helps! :)

How to Motivate Yourself at Work

Motivation at work

Motivation is rather elusive, isn’t it? Some days you feel it and other days you can't achieve no matter how hard you try. You keep on staring at your computer screen, willing to do work but you don't have that motivation which makes you do it. Instead, your brain is full of other stuff which in fact makes you uninspired and you have no idea how to get the motivation.
Read on for some tips to get the motivation and the energy to make it happen at work.

Don't think about it as Hard work
There is only one way for me to motivate myself about it: I don't think it as a hard work rather focusing on the moment when it will be done. I just think about the feeling to have it done.

Divide and Conquer
I hope you have heard about this phrase: Divide and Conquer, haven't you? if yes,  have you applied it to motivation? if you know the picture then it would be a piece of a cake to place the blocks and to win the game, isn't it? So rather than focusing on a large and daring goal, divide it into chunks and break the big goal into ideas which could be easily digested.

Don't pay attention to diversions
You should look carefully at your to-do list and shave off anything which is just a diversion or unnecessary for you to do. It won't be best to end up on oppositely to what you have started for at the first place.

Have little breaks
You should have little breaks in order to refresh your mind.you must have your meals because with an empty stomach you won't be able to think fast and work efficiently. Within break, you should take fresh air, relax and calm your mind. Only then you will be able to complete your work and think on the solution if facing any obstacle.

Make it Happen
For me, to get motivated and to start doing something is to just do it(sounds banal, but it works). As soon as you make a decision to do the thing, just jump into it, do it by ignoring all the other stuff and suppressing all other thoughts. This way you would be able to complete your task and would make it happen.

Appreciate yourself & celebrate the win
The feeling after completing your task is very strong, makes you happier and motivated for the next tasks. You should celebrate that feeling of accomplishment which makes you think that you need more wins in life. You shouldn't discount those little wins. You should appreciate yourself on these wins, which eventually leads you to the motivation for the next goal.

What other motivations tricks work for you? Let me know in comments.

How to Stop Worrying and Start Doing

Worry is a powerful emotion. It's what keeps many people awake at night and is what gnaws away at people as they try to do work, enjoy their lives and even when they try to relax. For many people, worry becomes worse and they feel anxiety which is itself a negative emotion. It becomes like a habit for them. They become more anxious at doing things. They feel like, it would consume them eventually. But like other habits and emotions, it could be changed. What people like these mostly do is that they don't focus -on their goals or pleasures.
Today, I am going to give you the best tips on how you could stop worrying and through which anyone could change his/her habit of worrying and starts doing.

Fact or Fiction?
First of all, you have to stay calm and think about your worry. Is it a real factual thing or just any sort of fiction or thought you are carrying as a burden? You should slow down yourself,whatever you are doing,just calm down.It would make the image of your worry clear that how could you make it go away in case of fiction or solve the real factual problem, which leads to my second way to stop worrying.

Resolve the Problem:
There is a big difference between worrying and problem-solving. In the former, you keep yourself in a cycle of continuous thinking about the problem, while in the later one, if you face a problem, you start thinking for its solution. In today's life, everyone is facing some kind of problems, so no one is above them. The difference comes where one starts to worry and the other person thinks for its solution. My advice is to put on your problem-solver hat and starts thinking for the solution.

Don't Overthink:
‘Constant thinking will not take you far from the place you are now. Actions will.’
You can think all day long but you'll make no progress unless you start doing. Worry can cause you to procrastinate and avoid doing something which you would really like to do. Until you start translating your thoughts and solution into actions, they are worthless. You worry that something may go wrong so you don't take action. If you never take action, you never really know whether the outcome will be on your side or same outcome you were worried about. Even with a bad solution or idea, you'll have something to learn from it.

Live in the Present:
Worry is the enemy of joy. Worry is triggered by thinking about future events. The more you think about these events, the more you realize that the outcome is uncertain. Rather than thinking about the future, chose to live in the present, focus on it.

Use these basic and productive strategies to stop worrying and start  doing. That's how you will find happiness and motivation to beat worry and can enjoy the life.

I am Depressed,what should i do?

Sometimes managing your depression is less about what you add to your life and more about what you take away. Here are 6 tips for you, that should be done under depression. These have all become such ingrained habits in me that I don’t even have to think about them anymore.

Ignore/Stop Worrying:

Worrying makes you stressed out but doesn’t actually change anything, as much as we wish it would. So then you have two options: either do something to actively change the situation or don’t worry about it. Either way is going to be a lot more productive than ruminating over things you might not even be able to control. So ignore and stop worrying about that.

Don't Compare Yourself to Other People:

Everyone is on their own unique journey. "Wherever you are right now is exactly where ALLAH needs you to be." Just trust HIM. So don't compare yourself with other people's life and their comforts. You are blessed too in some other way,so keep putting one foot in front of the other and taking baby steps every day and your time will come.

Keep your Phone at Distance:

Checking your phone constantly just gives you anxiety because either something needs your attention (like an email or text) or you’re stressed out because nothing needs your attention and you’re wondering why people aren’t texting you. A lot of people are glued to their phones throughout the day, but I usually have my phone in my room plugged in and only check it a few times a day (unless I’m talking to someone). If you’re out and about, check out your surroundings or do a little people-watching. It’s not that scary to not always be on your phone.

Engage Yourself:

This is similar to the one about checking your phone all day. If you find yourself constantly doing this, maybe it’s time to replace that habit with a new one. If you feel yourself alone in public and don’t want to look that way, maybe you can read an inspirational blog or listen to some motivational speech on Youtube. Or maybe you can write your own blog. So engage yourself in some healthy activity to divert your mind from the depressing state to a productive one.

Play Games:

I’ve always been terrible at video games, but I guess that’s a good thing because I’m happier for it. For some people, video games are a way to release stress, but they’re really violent and seem to cause you more anxiety than they relieve. If you play a lot of video games, consider reading a personal development book or watching an inspirational TED talk instead. A lot less violence and a happier you.

Don't Complain:

Finally, the last thing not to do in depression is to complain. Sure, there are times when everyone wants to whine about things and to complain. Complaining is just a bad habit, like anything else, so have faith in ALLAH and try going a whole day without complaining, you'll see how your attitude changes.